i am a student....

Its 3 o clock,

And i cant get to sleep,

As i walk the block,

I have appointments to keep,

Not that i am a biz-whiz,

Not that i am a crusader,

Not that i have a mistress to kiss,

Not that i am a peacemaker,

But i am a student......

I have appointments with my books,

Yearning for my attention,

Long deprived of which,

Are kept in the shelves for an eternal,

And now that the exams have invaded,

I have to guard against them,

The books are my soldiers,

But i need to muster them.

Oh demon examination,

I admit i am terror stricken,

Thou subjects are scary,

with the weightage they carry,

but i am no chicken,

i have my armour sharpened,

i will hail thou thundering storm,

i will win my credits,

i will battle thou feisty form,

i will push my limits.

I swear to god,

At the end of the war,

I will emerge as winner,

With a performance a par .

The battle would end,

But not the fight,

I know you will b back,

And i will wait for you,

Once again to defeat .

You would seek redemption,

But i am here to deny,

You would return to action,

I m gonna kick you good bye.

the great indian joint family

I have recently been to my brother’s marriage......and in all the chaos i noticed the working of the great institution of marriage in binding another great institution of the Indian culture-the family. It is very often said that marriage is the unison of two souls.....marriage is also about getting together of two separate families. However, i would like to point out about how marriage brings one “long-lost” family together. My parents flew from lucknow.....my cousin brother flew from haridwar......my cousin sister came from Raipur......it was like a family reunion. How often do we get to see all this in the age of nuclear family?? Having brought up in a nuclear family i witnessed as to why the joint families were so preferred back then. It’s fun 24x7!!! To be around your bros, sis, parents, uncles, aunts, siblings all at once. Yes, there are many more things living in a joint family on a regular basis......there is lack of privacy, not enough personal space etc etc. With times we all have evolved as independent beings....maybe that’s why we prefer nuclear family unlike our previous generations. Whatever it is, being a part of a joint family once in a while is really fun.......enjoyed to the hilt.....:)

The JOURNEY.....

The other day i was watching the English television series “how i met your mother”....and the protagonist was having problems with his plans about life. He had planned a super successful life along with a family life but clearly he was struggling with both. That’s when he was made understood that in life the end points do not matter as much as the journey does......which is true indeed. How many times has it happened that we spent hours planning something and that event turns out some other way?? it has happened to me many many times.....in fact it almost happens every time to me. My roomie says “mere life me maine aj tak jo bhi plan kiya hai wo kabhi nai hua hai.”

Well, many a times we all know what those end points of the journey are going to be but still we fail to enjoy the journey because we try to reach the end of the expedition without going through the adventures and the fallouts. Once the voyage is set in motion it is bound to end somewhere.....but what we completely do not notice is that we are far too much focussed on the outcome than the things that lead us to the end.  We miss the little joys in the journey. It’s actually a very simple concept......sample this.....after four years of college when we would be reminiscing our college life we would not recall how perfectly we studied or how perfectly we obeyed our teachers......but we would fondly remember any case of us breaking rules and regulations and facing the consequences. We all want our life to be perfect....but believe me perfect is very boring......it’s like we know what’s gonna happen next.....it takes all the suspense out of the future. It’s the disorder in life that makes it exciting and worth remembering.

Enjoy the trek in your life....even if you slip....ultimately you will scale the peak.....and when you reach there you would only be remembering the slips.....the true journey.

Public Display of Affection.....a juvenile crime??

The new generation has outgrown the older ones in many fields......many desirable and many undesirable.....and many questionable. One of them is the Public Display of Affection a.k.a PDA........does this ring a bell in your mind?? How many times have you kissed your girlfriend sitting on the park’s bench?? How many times have you held her hands in your hands and walked down a public place inviting weird looks??  If yes, then you have qualified for a so-called juvenile crime called PDA. Only yesterday i found myself in such a situation where i was walking down a lane with a girl and i noticed whoever was passing by us were stealing a glance as if we were committing a crime....!! i was neither kissing her nor was i holding her hands.....yet i was made feel as if i was doing something wrong. That’s when i thought to write this.

Our generation has everything heightened about them. When they are happy they party as hard as possible, when they are sad they go into depression very easily.....we seldom plan our future as our parents did....we are more of living in the present and enjoying it to the fullest. So, even when it comes to emotions they are too huge to be hidden even in the public......so that’s why PDA!!

Mind you, i am not advocating PDA......all i want to say is it’s not bad and is certainly not an act of offence. It can be over the line sometimes.......but maximum times it is blown out of proportion. PDA is good enough when it is done within limits. It is just awkward in the Indian culture to witness a PDA . And to all those for whom its awkward to witness a pda......the western culture becomes the easy target!! Why everyone does have to point out western culture for anything that is “out of culture”?? if we like western culture then there’s a reason to it also....why can’t people appreciate the good points in it and try to avoid the bad ones?? Nothing in this world is perfect....and so is culture.

PUBLIC DISPLAY OF AFFECTION is no evil....if there is an evil at all then it’s in our heads that is making us believe that a harmless display of emotions threatens our centuries old bona fide culture.